Relationships are not always rainbows and butterflies. There will be times when you’ll ask yourself if you can still keep your relationship going amidst all the problems. Feeling insecure is actually normal, but if you feel that way often, it’s important that you recognise what’s causing you to feel that way first and then take some action to deal with it.
Why You Are Feeling Some Insecurities in Your Relationship
1. You Judge Yourself Based on the Standards of Others. Comparing yourself to others won’t do you any good, and the same thing works for your relationship. Deliberately comparing yourself and your beau with other couples will only cause you to feel inadequate. Understand that your relationship has its own milestones and strengths as other, so stop comparing.
2. You Overthink Almost Everything. Overanalysing your partner’s behaviour towards you is what causes you to jump into hasty assumptions, thereby creating problems that never really existed. Just take your beau as he is, and avoid putting words in his mouth. Also, keep all the negative thoughts that could possibly ruin your relationship off your mind.
3. You Carry Extra Baggage From Your Previous Relationships. You’ve probably had your fair share of failed relationships, and that fair share should is best to be just left in the past. Love is one unpredictable ride, and you can only go through it smoothly when you unload all the baggage that’s weighing you down.
How to Feel More Secure in Your Relationship
1. Love Yourself More. People who knows their worth and loves themselves enough rarely struggle with insecurity in life and in their relationships. By respecting and loving yourself enough, you become more aware of your true value. Having a life outside your relationship will also help in maintaining your identity and in keeping you from depending too much on your partner. With this, your other half will see you as an equal and that’s what will make you feel more secured in your relationship.
2. Keep an Open Line of Communication With Your Partner. The kind of communication you have in your relationship is another tell-tale sign if your relationship will be able to stand the test of time. Healthy communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If something’s troubling you, learn to communicate it effectively. Talk to your beau with respect and keep his feelings in mind when communicating.
3. Learn to Trust Him. While it takes time to build trust, you can actually give it a strong foundation by allowing yourself to believe and trust your decision again. Also, learn to give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Be honest with each other, and you’ll be amazed as to how valuable your relationship becomes when trust has been built over time.
Feeling secured with your relationship starts within you. Yes, it may take some time but with the right attitude and by following the aforementioned tips, you’ll eventually get there and you’ll realize that it’s all worth it.